Monday, July 26, 2010

True Colors

Sadly, my Grandpa is now in the nursing home after falling a couple weeks ago.  :-(  Our family is still coming to terms with the fact that he will not be able to go back home to the farm.  On a lighter note, his new roommate in the physical therapy wing of the nursing home just so happens to be none other than............

his wife aka my Grandma! They are such cute roomies and loving it! :-)

Our family has had to start the difficult task of cleaning the house out.  As if going through everything isn't hard enough, my mom and my aunt have had to deal with my uncle.  We shall refer to my uncle as Oh Greedy One from here on out (you will see why he has earned his nickname VERY soon).

My mom and my aunt have been taking care of my grandparents for the past several years so that they could continue to live on the farm- taking them to doctor's appointments, buying groceries, picking up prescriptions, cooking them dinner, etc.  Meanwhile, Oh Greedy One has been completely MIA.  He would use every excuse in the book as to why he couldn't be there, or even better, he would agree to help and then never show up.  At one point my Grandpa took a turn for the worse and Oh Greedy One asked if he really needed to go up to the nursing home because he was at the casino. REALLY?!? Are you kidding me?!? If my dad was not doing well I would be driving 90 mph to get there to be by his bedside!

My mom and my aunt prayed that things would go smoothly while cleaning out the house.  They are physically and emotionally drained.  They have zero fight left.  Fortunately or unfortunately depending on how you look at it, my aunt's daughter and I have plenty of fight in us.

{I will warn you now that the rest of this post is going to get ugly because I am beyond furious and need to get this off of my chest.}

Of course Oh Greedy One turned the event into a royal shit show!  He showed up with a Budget moving truck (the size just under a full-size semi) and just started grabbing whatever he could get his grubby little hands on.  He had zero consideration for the rest of the family and just acted like he was entitled to everything.  He even had the audacity to go up to my mom and give her crap about the Winthrop desk that Grandpa and Grandma had promised her, one of the few items that she really wanted.  He told her, "So, I hear that you are going to take the Winthrop desk that belonged to MY mother."  WTF?!? Since when is my mom some illegitimate bastard child?!? Pretty sure they both have the same mother (though now I wonder how such an evil, greedy person could have the same blood as my mom and my aunt). 

My mom, my aunt, my cousin and I are not upset about Oh Greedy One taking anything/everything, we are upset at how he went about it.  Everyone was trying to divide things up evenly to make sure that people received the items that had sentimental value to them.  This was hard enough, we did not need him acting like it was a free for all.  Oh and he is not taking items for sentimental purposes, he is taking items to pawn for money*.  This makes me want to rip my hair out and scream!  

Oh Greedy One didn't even ask my mom or my aunt if there were certain items that they wanted, he just took them.  For example, my Grandfather has an old tool box that has all of his old wood working tools.  Instead of splitting them up or asking if anyone else wanted a tool or two he just took the entire box.....end of discussion.  There were some old couches in the house that nobody wanted.  My cousin is currently living in the house and asked that if no one wanted the couches that they stay with the house for now.  Oh Greedy One's response was, "Well, you can put money in Grandpa's checking account or make a donation to the church for the couches."  He basically told her that she had to purchase the couches and needed to put the money in the bank (towards his inheritance) or donate it even though he didn't want/need them.  Un-freaking believable!  My poor cousin had tears running down her face because she was so angry. 

He had the ENTIRE moving truck packed to the brim and his wife's SUV stuffed beyond capacity.  Oh Greedy One informed my mom and my aunt that he would be back another day to go through the rest of the stuff. 

The point is......he doesn't give a rats ass about my Grandparents.  It's sad, very sad.  All he cares about is his inheritance and how much money he is going to get.  Well, sadly, he will have to live the rest of his life knowing that he wasn't around when my Grandparents needed help.  He turned his back on them and the rest of the family.  In the end I will probably never see or hear from them again and I am perfectly fine with that.  He has put my mom and my aunt through hell and back. 

I was not present thanks to an untimely ear infection/sinus infection.  I probably would have gotten in trouble had I been there.  I did, however, go over to the house after hearing my mom crying on the phone and witnessed the after mass.  When I walked in I found my mom, my aunt and my cousin all in tears.  My heart broke from them and what they had just been through.  I was furious!

* - My Grandpa fought in World War II.  He has several medals and patches from the war as well as his rifle.  He even has his uniform!  Well, Oh Greedy One is taking it all and feels that as the only boy he deserves it.  I just hope and pray that he hangs those medals up proudly and displays them because there is so much to be proud of.  I am praying that he doesn't try to pawn them but I am not going to hold my breath.  Grandpa earned those medals and they should be kept in the family.  They should be passed down so that future generations can see what he did for our country.

If you are still reading- thank you for listening and letting me get all of that off of my chest.  This entire situation just breaks my heart and makes me so mad all at the same time.  Greed has a very ugly face and tends to always show its true colors. 

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Nicole-Lynn said...

I'm sorry your grandmpa is in the nursing home now, but it seems to be the best for him right now and that is so cute your grandma is his roomie! :) I'm sorry to hear about your uncle. I've had to deal with some selfish family members and it's definitely sad.

THE Stephanie said...

Oh my gosh! That's horrible! I'm so sorry your family is having to deal with that ON TOP of your grandparents health.

jessica lynn said...

ugh so sad especially because your mom is such a sweetie and shouldnt have to be dealing with that. :(