What To Do?!?

"Don't sweat the small stuff"

This is something that friends and family have told me during this entire wedding planning process and I have taken it to heart. I feel like I have done a pretty darn good job at not sweating over anything small. I even remind myself that if something doesn't happen it won't be a big deal because I will be the only one who notices.

Well, I have fallen off of my horse and I am struggling to climb back up!

As you know from my recent posts I am trying to find a Lutheran pastor to marry us since my pastor is now being deployed for the next 8 months (see here and here). Let's put it this way- if I were a baseball player I would have just struck out (I am just full of similes and such). So far I am batting a thousand because I have been denied by three different pastors due to scheduling issues, conflicting church services, etc.

I am trying to stay calm but let's face it, a pastor is not a small detail. Future hubby and I can't walk down the aisle and just stare at each other with googly eyes without having someone lead the ceremony (well we could but it would be very awkward and quiet). I have spent the last two days bursting into tears at various times because this is really starting to stress me out. I am starting to run out of pastors to contact. I resorted to contacting a pastor today that I don't even know which isn't unheard of but not what I wanted. He is the Lutheran pastor of a church that I want to start attending so I figured why not!? I have not heard back from him yet but I am just saying prayer after prayer to God asking for help.

My mom keeps reminding me that God has His own plan for us. She said that maybe God is trying to tell me that He wants me to start going to this new church. If this pastor says yes I am definitely taking it as a sign. Even if this pastor says no I will still attend this church.

I know that I have 3 months left but time is a ticking! I am going to try my hardest to put this into God's hands and not stress but human nature has left me as a basket case. So bare with my posting or lack of posting until this situation gets resolved. I hope to have good news to report back to you!

Comments

Adrienne said…
Maybe you could ask your original pastor if he has any pastor friends he could recommend to you? He may have some connections, you never know. Hang in there!
Adrienne has a great idea. Go to your original source. I'm SURE he will point you in the right direction.

In fact, he may have someone that is taking over all of his duties while he is away????
Brittney said…
I know your pain. At our one month mark our church told us that the new building was not going to be finished... we'd most likely be in the old sanctuary. Which is not the end of the world... but when you've envisioned it in the new building for a whole year and have to change your thinking at the last moment... I freaked out - haha

Also, my FI doesn't have a job yet and it looks like (with 10 days to go) that's not going to happen. So, we are going to be living with my parents until he does. We just can't afford to live on our own. This is NOT what I wanted!!! So, this weekend, we are moving everything into my parents house. Bummer!

Trying not to let it get to me. Sorry, this was a little therapy comment for me as well! :)
Brittney said…
I'll be thinking about you in your Pastor search!!!
Unknown said…
I'm sure you've heard this a THOUSAND times...it will all work out. Maybe not how you originally planned...but you'll be MR. & MRS. regardless!!!
jessica lynn said…
have you asked april if she knows of any lutheran pastors? when we got our priest (catholic) i had to get a hold of names of retired indy catholic priests (googled it) and just started going down the list to call/contact them. that is the only way that we were able to find someone to marry us since we were not in the city where chris was a member of a church. also, if you dont get a priest and you do stare at e/o with googly eyes....I kinda think it might be funny and enjoyable 4 your guests. and it wouldnt be quiet because I would be laughing. ha! let me know if I can help!
Unknown said…
I am going to be of no help, since I'm not an Indianapolis girl, but YAY for Lutherans! There aren't many of us left out there.
I have a feeling that a pastor will turn up! It'll be great!

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